I'd really appreciate some help with this one.
I'm currently teaching a small class of 13 year olds. I've got them for 8 subjects (including English) so I see them a lot. A couple of the girls are brilliant, always on time, make notes, ask questions, get excited about homework, interact... that kind of thing. Just lovely lovely girls.
Then I have one student who struggles immensely. She's a couple years older than the rest, as she "just didnt go to school for a few years". She is obese (probably borderline morbid obese) and doesnt carry her self well. as in, greasy hair, awful skin - the lot! She also requires glasses as she is constantly squinting, but refuses to wear them. This also means she suffers from migraines, which get so bad she refuses to do any more work.
Her attendance rate is abysmal.
I'm not quite sure how to deal with it. I have not met her family and have been told by my head that I dont "need to". And anyway, for parents to let their kid get to this state, I'm not quite sure I'd want to!
If she's not coming to class, then how am I meant motivate her? I cant slow things down and make the other students wait for her to catch up (they all find her rather frustrating, although there is no bullying - the class is really small, but they do snap at her when she takes too long answering questions etc.)
It's heart breaking to witness. Last week we discussed dreams and aspirations as part of a PSHE class, and this girl has nothing that interests her (or so she says).
I'm still new to Asian culture, and I don't know how to handle this situation. I could just focus on the other girls and leave this one to her own misery, but it breaks my heart and I suspect this is what people have done to get her to where she is today.
I appreciate any help and suggestions.